Archive for the ‘Thinky Thinks-a-Lot’ Category

Read This

Sorry for more death talk, but it’s important. So please, read this: What Doctors Know — and We Can Learn — About Dying For me, the most profound paragraph was this: Doctors also know that undergoing heroic measures is a lousy way to die. They’ve seen what it’s like for an elderly patient to end [...]

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Things I Know

The last 5 years have been the best of my life. And not for any big, awesome reasons — plenty of terrible, horrible, no good, very bad things have happened. But I’ve grown and learned so much, and most days I feel positively zen-like in my ability to live in the moment, smile, and appreciate the [...]

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Why You’re Not Married

I love this.

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Stereotypes

Driving home from work, the two cars in front of me led my mind into a spiral of questions and thoughts and ponderings. A heavy construction truck–probably a Ford Super Duty–with oversized tires and cow-guards was first. It was covered in mud, and loaded with all kinds of tools and equipment in the back. The driver [...]

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Question

Don’t know if any of my readers have any knowledge of something called “Culturomics,” but I’m interested in it. I don’t want to lead responses with any of my own ideas, so I’ll just leave it at this…

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Tis the Season of Social Interaction

The season’s here again, so I thought I better re-post this (I believe it was from last year). Just a friendly reminder… ******************* I’ve been struggling to defend my personality for oh, say, 30 years. Holidays always present an especially difficult predicament, as I genuinely want to be engaged with people and their conversations. I genuinely want to be [...]

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Draft for Megan

At the request of my best friend, I’ve begun writing an essay about the perils of our culture’s reliance on technology. Here’s the intro. I’ll keep working on it and post it when it’s finished. Just wanted Megan to know I’m doing her proud. *     *     *     *   [...]

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Holiday Blahs

This is usually a pretty really very exceptionally shitty time of year for me. I loathe forced together time (like Alicia says, “forced family fun!”), and I hate awkward small talk, and I hate huge-ass elephants that sit in every room–no one willing to raise any touchy subjects, no one willing to admit that Uncle [...]

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Domination and Disrespect

Last week, Mom and I talked at length about relationships–what makes them work, and all the reasons they fail. Her philosophy doesn’t mesh well with mine, but we managed to have the entire conversation without raising our voices. Mom believes that wives should be submissive to their husbands–that husbands should make decisions about housing, finances, [...]

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Back or Belly

As a 16-year-old, I was severely scolded by the parents of three children for whom I was babysitting. They had 2 toddlers and an infant. (I was a good baby-sitter, I promise.) When the parents got home, Mom went to check on baby in the crib. And she came out and let me have it for [...]

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Trust = Competence + Committedness

When we trust people, we are optimistic not only that they are competent to do what we trust them to do, but also that they are committed to doing it. Without believing in committedness, we don’t have trust. We have reliance–like we rely on an alarm clock. Trusting someone’s committedness requires us to be vulnerable [...]

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This. This.

Julie knows exactly how I feel most days.  (P.S. I wouldn’t click the link at work, because it’s on a website with a questionable name–although very excellent content–and the post is entitled, “We’re Fucked Moments.” Just sayin.)

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A Consumerist Manifesto

Here’s an excerpt from an essay I wrote in college. The full text is much longer, but I still like the basic premise. Maybe I’ll expand??? *     *     *     *     * I remember watching my dad come home from the farm at dinner-time: dirt under his fingernails, [...]

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Writing in the Country

Growing up with 1,000+ acres, I learned to take certain things for granted: peace, privacy, room to move, quiet nights, stars in the sky, unleashed animals, unlocked doors, and unarmed neighbors. I hated it.  Couldn’t wait to get out of that suffocating little town, see the world, experience real living, and leave my country roots behind — [...]

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And Here’s the Part Where I Sound Like a Total Asshole

I’m a progressive liberal. I support spending money on social welfare programs, improvements to education, infrastructure development, and all kinds of other programs. I believe that I pay a fair amount of taxes, even though I pay more in taxes each year than many people will earn. That’s okay; I have enough. I am comfortable. [...]

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1 in 7

If 1 of 7 Americans live in poverty, that means 6 of 7 Americans can help them.

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What I Think

On September 13, I asked you what you thought about this: Some real shock and awe. Though I got very few responses, I want to let you know what I think. (And I KNOW you must be kidding about the ‘whiner’ comment, MCM–tell me you’d be totally fine with a strip search that began with an [...]

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What Do You Think?

Some real shock and awe. What do you think?

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September 11

There are a million images, a million thoughts, that will never leave my mind. But the thing that bothers me most — and will continue to bother me until my dying day — is the thought of those poor people jumping to their certain deaths, knowing it was the better option.

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What If…

My mom is a really good worrier. She worries about the weather. About driving in the weather. About the accuracy of the forecast. And the possibility of flooding or drought or tornadoes or fires. She worries about where to put things, and how to find them after she’s put them there. She worries about getting [...]

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